I found “The Social Network” a very thought-provoking movie. Its interpretation of Facebook is quite negative, portraying founder Mark Zuckerberg as a socially inept dweeb with a ferocious juvenile longing for acceptance by the Harvard inner circle.
Whether or not this is an accurate portrayal of Zuckerberg, it is an intriguing explanation of Facebook’s astonishing success. Essentially the movie says that Zuckerberg’s longings were so crass and urgent, so undisguised, that he alone penetrated to the core of other people’s crass longings and saw how to exploit them through the Internet. Facebook, according to this interpretation, works because it offers a sense of exclusivity and acceptance (you can only go where someone who “friends” you lets you go). It also provides you with information you can mine to make more friends and even partners. (“Relationship status” is portrayed in the movie as Zuckerberg’s flash of insight that caps off his creation.) Thus Facebook is all about social striving, a desire to make it with the in crowd, have a lot of friends (and let other people know it), and get desirable partners. A dweeb like Zuckerberg can fulfill his longings without actually caring for anybody. Facebook enables a virtual life for those who find the real thing too hard.
Is that really what makes Facebook so successful? There may be something to the theory, but let me offer a more benign possibility. I think Facebook replaces two American institutions with a better, Internet-powered approach. One is the phone book. You can find people, and now institutions, on Facebook. (It is becoming both white pages and yellow pages.) At first it was fellow college students—and of course, college students most of all want to contact fellow college students. Now it is virtually everybody on the planet. If you want to reach somebody, you used to try the phone book. Now you use Facebook. It’s not perfect but it’s very helpful.
The second institution is the Christmas letter. Millions of Americans, myself included, depend on once-a-year letters, complete with photos, to bring the world up to date on their lives. It’s not particularly personal, but it keeps you in touch, enables you to update addresses and phone numbers, gives a short summary of family news, and lets friends assess the state of your bald spot and your waistline. You aren’t required to respond to Christmas letters; you don’t even have to read them. Some you read, some you skim.
Facebook does that, and does it better: frequent, effortless updates, multiple photos. It’s a better way to keep in touch. You can read what you want and skip the rest.
In neither of these institutions do I sense the ardent striving that “The Social Network” suggests. Of course, one must explain the hours some people spend on Facebook. I suggest that people spend those hours because they like gossip. Spending hours on Facebook is a time waster, but it is fueled by mindless curiosity and the desire to be in the know—not some craving for social acceptance and one-up-man-ship.
If my interpretation is correct, it means that Facebook will not transform the world. Phone books and Christmas letters are not revolutionary; neither is gossip. On the other hand, Facebook is not a great malignant cancer on society. Its future, this interpretation suggests, will be limited but secure. It will flourish as long as it fills these mundane functions better than the next new thing.